One study of college students found that 17 percent of them were estranged from an immediate family member; another survey of older adults found that 12 percent were estranged from their children. Of course, that doesn’t mean you’re not the only person you know who has zero plans to go home or host a Zoom family Christmas. Figure out who gets to know the whole truth about your family situation, and who doesn’t. All you have to say (to either your family or those who ask) is that you don’t feel comfortable going home right now. Ultimately, you can’t change your family members any more than you can dictate people’s responses to your estrangement.